Effective people do what they want, communicate accurately, clearly impact people, and change the status quo.

 

You know a highly effective person when you know one!

 

You know you met an effective person when you: reads a book that changes your thinking, listens to a speech from someone with extraordinary mental clarity, or works for someone who makes you want to perform better. These people are those who see opportunities where others see obstacles, which focus more on solutions than on problems. Although his traits are discernible, what may be less obvious are the habits of self that prevent him from getting there as well. Here are some of the most significant - and often misleading - things that need to stop to become more effective in your own life.

 

 

1. Intimidate yourself.

 

If you constantly feel that you are striving to perform better or do more things and get what is wrong with your life, mentally intimidate yourself with worry about the worst scenarios, you are throwing yourself in your own foot. You are in an internal conflict with yourself. You need to ask yourself: where are you going and what's holding you back? Do you really want what you're trying to do? If you are not naturally doing something you want to do, there is a reason and unraveling that subconscious reason is essential to moving forward.

 

2. Get bitter.

 

All were rejected, ridiculed, or failed in one way or another. If, years later, you are still trying to convince yourself why such and such a situation is beneath you, consider that it is because you feel still below it.

 

3. Confuse comfort for happiness.

 

Most people do not understand the difference between happiness and comfort. Your brains literally can not process you. They choose terrible relationships, unproductive habits and remain in jobs with no future because they feel comfortable and therefore seem "right." When you only do what is comfortable, you get stuck in what you know. When you push the limits of your comfort to try something new, put yourself out there, start exploring what is possible. It all starts with your desire to get out of your comfort zone.

 

4. Bring people to the corners.

 

Effective people are separating the way they communicate. They are downward thinkers, which means they consider how one would respond to them before speaking. That is why they are rarely aggressive and do not leave people in the corners. When people feel helpless, they get angry. Anger causes your defenses to increase and therefore makes you less receptive to feedback or willing to make changes.

 

5. Cherish many opinions.

 

The opinions of other people are like anchors. They are essential for us to function: how others will think and respond will often help us self-regulate, not acting in a harmful or malicious way.

 

6. Accept excuses as justifications.

 

You are doing what you need to do or are not. Your apologies may seem real. Your justifications may be valid.

 

7. Believe in everything they feel.

 

In a world that instructs you to "follow your heart," "trust your instinct," and listen to your feelings, it becomes clear why it can be so confusing to discern what you should really pay attention to. It may seem unfeasible to think that your feelings are not facts, but in reality it is liberating. The feelings we often believe are only those that are stronger. Feelings are not mirrors of reality, they are mirrors of how we perceive reality.

 

8. Overthink productivity.

 

There are many resources on the Internet to try and guide you on how to optimize your work and accomplish more on a given day. Of course, different habits that help you organize and maintain focus are important, but what happens is that you get up and do the work or not. It's not something you should have to think over.

 

9. Worry about everything.

 

It is not our time that is limited every day, it is our energy. We have a lot of energy in our lives and we can choose how we spend it. You are not destined to do or be everything in your life. You do not have to worry about everything. It's best to pick a handful of things that matter most and focus your attention on them.

 

10. See challenges as endings.

 

Effective people are not intimidated or influenced by setbacks. Instead, they understand that they are simply part of the process and are expected. Instead of seeing challenges overcoming goals, they measure what can be learned from them and how they can react to ensure that the situation does not appear again. Your goal is not to ensure that nothing goes wrong, either to make every experience an opportunity for growth, whether comfortable or not.

 

 

Source, Forbes.